It's an endemic problem nowadays, people cannot seem to fathom it, or to "own up to it"
Why is that? Why has does this seem to be a more and more the norm.
Why is it, that instead of accepting blame and the consequences and responsibility for one's actions, there is instead this need to deflect the blame, to question one's role in it, to challenge the the mechanism of it, and to reflect it.
A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
Why can't we just take responsibility without the need to feel that it will get us somewhere, but to just do it because it is the right thing to do. It amazes me when people apologize and are surprised that people still despise them, so what? The important thing is to admit you were wrong without expectation of forgiveness, again that isn't the point.
Another issue I see is the need to deflect blame, by saying it's someone else's fault or introducing another entirely different issue all together. All designed to ensure the blame is not squarely places where it is deserved.
I work at taking blame when it is deserved, and do not shirk from it if I can help it, I fuck up, we all do, and we all try to learn from our mistakes, so it drives me nuts when someone doesn't do that. It cheapens the human experience and it cheapens friendships.
It's amazing that one can keep a friendship, but lying or hiding one's own guilt in something can end it oh so quickly.
We are not perfect, but we strive to do the best we can, and we make mistakes, it makes us human beings. We will never not make mistakes, "to err is to be human" as they say.
It's late and i should go to bed, but I just wanted to say that.